separation acceptance,
resilience & empowerment retreat
The eight-day retreat to
transform breakup pain.
October 27 to November 3, 2025 | Xaló, Costa Blanca, Spain
Connecting.
Accepting.
Growing.
The Experience
At heartblooms, we appreciate and approach stuff with honesty. No 'perfect fix' or overnight transformation promises, because growth can take time. Our approach and methods are carefully curated. They are rooted in kindness and support.
We observe our emotions and the stories behind them, cultivate acceptance, and practice self-awareness. We shift perspectives and develop mindsets that support our wellbeing.
Center.
Transform.
Reflect.
We balance with mindfulness, movement, and moments of stillness — shared or in solitude.
We explore relationship patterns with curiosity, awareness, and honesty.
We pause to reflect, process, and voice our experiences in a healthy setting away from our day-to-day life.
Feel held.
We connect with others in a supportive setting, honouring our boundaries and needs every step of the way.
Nourish.
We feed body and soul with tasty and fresh Mediterranean food that is prepared for us with much heart.
Integrate.
We integrate our insights into our processes, building a foundation for lasting growth and wellbeing.
The Purpose
If you’ve experienced a breakup, divorce, or are contemplating the end of a relationship, this retreat offers a nurturing environment to lean in, let go, and create anew. It’s an opportunity to process and release emotions, learn practical tools in service of your well-being, reclaim your strength, envision healthy relationship dynamics, and find support among others who understand your journey.
Experience
a calm and immersive environment that allows for compassion and clarity.
Expand
your relational and emotional intelligence toolbox with new skills, competencies, and insights.
Recognise
and work through beliefs and patterns that you realise don't serve you.
Cultivate
a mindset that allows for shifting from resentment to empowerment.
Practice
awareness and build resilience in the process of navigating your relationship transitions.
Transform
some of the ways in which you think of and feel about past behaviours, experiences, and dynamics.
Chart
paths forward and take first steps that align with your values, with more awareness of your non-negotiables.
The Retreat Center
Nestled in a 10,500 sqm Mediterranean landscape, the heartblooms separation acceptance, resilience & empowerment retreat takes place in a carefully chosen, family-owned finca that offers an especially warm, home-like atmosphere. The property's rustic charm – alongside our team's caring service and appreciation for details – creates the context to connect with yourself, recharge, and find strength.
Cuatre Finques Retreat Center
Xaló, Alicante | Spain
1 hour from Alicante Airport
1,5 hours from Valencia Airport.
We assist our participants with organising airport transfers.
We’ve chosen our location carefully. Cuatre Finques is a four-star property that meets exceptional standards and is exclusively used for this retreat, offering both community and privacy in the peaceful Spanish countryside of the Costa Blanca. Nestled among mountain views, vineyards, and almond trees, Cuatre Finques is only a 10-minute walk from the nearest town with shops and restaurants and just a 25-minute drive from the coast.
Each room offers flexible arrangements — bookable either as a private room with one double bed or as a shared room with two separate beds. Every room includes air conditioning, a personal safe, a hair dryer, and free Wi-Fi, with some rooms offering terraces or balconies.
The Facilitators
We are two experienced facilitators and coaches who will support you alongside and throughout your retreat journey. We rely on 1,000+ hours of coaching, having supported C-level executives at Fortune 500 companies, diplomats, public servants, activists, parents, and partners. We like kindness, honesty, humbleness. Together, we bring educated, inclusive, and culturally attuned perspectives and competencies.
The Programme
While we embrace mindfulness and delve into self-discovery through journaling, we go deeper. We provide a transformative framework for self-care and navigating the complex emotions of separation. But it’s not all introspection—we ignite moments of joy, explore the beauty of impromptu nature walks, and take many dips in the pool. Think of it as a thoughtful balance between deep introspection and uplifting community moments.
Arrival
Day
Monday, Oct 27
A typical Retreat Day
15:00
17:00
20:00
Arrive & settle in
Retreat start
Welcome dinner
07:30
08:00
09:00
11:30
12:15
14:30
16:00
17:30
19:30
Coffee, tea, and fruit served (optional)
Yoga, meditation, or walk (optional)
Morning programme
Brunch
Self-care & time to recharge
Afternoon programme (I)
Self-care & time to recharge
Afternoon programme (II)
Dinner together
except for Thursday evening, which will be a free evening for participants to explore dining options in the surroundings.
Departure
Day
Monday, Nov 3
09:00
10:45
11:45
Morning programme
Farewell brunch
Departure
The Methodology
Our conceptual cornerstones, experience design, group facilitation, coaching, and intervention methods are grounded in a rich foundation of knowledge, practice, and research. With years of experience guiding emotionally delicate processes, we integrate insights from trusted thought leaders and evidence-based sources. We believe in hands-on methods that feel practical and real, steering clear of anything too woo-woo.
Self-Compassion
Grounded in the pioneering work of Dr. Kristin Neff, we cultivate kindness toward ourselves, especially in moments of difficulty and vulnerability.
Conscious Uncoupling
Relying on a selection of Katherine Woodward Thomas’s frameworks, we approach healing from separation with intention, responsibility, and empowerment.
Relational Intelligence
Drawing from Esther Perel’s teachings, we explore our relationship patterns and learn how to build healthier, more fulfilling connections.
Mindfulness
Informed by the Search Inside Yourself retreat, we practice neuroscience-backed mindfulness and self-regulation in service of inner calm and resilience.
Emotional Intelligence
Based on Daniel Goleman’s research, we practice our emotional intelligence to enhance awareness of ourself and others.
Ontological Coaching
Rooted in the work of pioneering philosophers, we work on understanding how our worldview, emotions, and language shape our possibilities.
The Offer
This is an eight-day retreat that is thoughtfully crafted with room for just 8 to 12 participants. You’ll experience a setting that feels both private and open, ensuring ample opportunity for moments alone alongside meaningful interactions.
Retreat participation starts from 2,640 EUR for the entire stay, in a shared double room. Exact prices can be accessed by following the booking link below. Here’s everything you will find included in the prices you see:
What's included
Retreat Programming
Daily guided morning sessions
gentle yoga flow, mindfulness meditation, or light physical movement — participation is optional.
Daily retreat programming & workshops
activities working on your personal processes and the changes you desire.
Excursion
In a curated mini-adventure, we leave the retreat center for a different environment.
Materials, Frameworks & Personal Support
Solid frameworks
Receive tools to translate relational pain into empowerment.
All workshop materials
Provided so you can pack lightly and focus on your experience.
One-on-one support
Individual guidance to support you in processing and integrating.
Meals & Refreshments
Daily fresh fruit, water, coffee & tea
available throughout the day.
7 nourishing brunches
to start each day nourished and energised.
6 generous dinners
shared in good company to foster connection.
Accommodation & Amenities
7 nights in 4-star comfort
including towels, pool towels, and a relaxing environment.
Access to all hotel facilities
including the pool and bikes. on-site parking is available for those arriving by car.
Not included are
Flights/trains and transportation to/from the retreat location
1 self-organised dinner (on Thursday evening)
Spa treatments (bookable at an additional cost)
Massages (bookable at an additional cost)
Additional drinks (beyond those served regularly)
Insurance (travel, personal liability, cancellation, and medical)
The Participants
This retreat is open to individuals of very different walks of life and backgrounds who want to transform heartbreak into personal growth. We’re committed to creating a space where every participant feels genuinely seen, included, and cared for. We commit to having a short call with every participant before or after they book, in order to make sure this is the right place for them.
This retreat is a good fit for:
Individuals navigating relational challenges
Whether you’re dealing with a breakup, separation, divorce, or other relationship issues, our retreat intends to offer the support you need to move forward.
Those committed to personal growth
If you see personal development as the foundation for making meaningful impacts and strive for agency, resilience, and purpose, you'll appreciate the frameworks in this retreat.
Anyone ready to embrace change
If you’re prepared to challenge old habits, step out of your comfort zone, and grow within a supportive community, you’ll find a welcoming environment here.
Learners seeking immersive experiences
For those who prefer experiential, activity-based learning over traditional talk-only approaches, our immersive programs are designed to engage and inspire.
This retreat is not so great of a fit for:
Individuals primarily seeking holidays, comfort, and leisure.
Those who are looking for a regular yoga retreat, a meditation retreat, or similar types of wellness retreats.
Those wishing to join in search of romantic or sexual encounters at the retreat.
Those unwilling to engage in self-reflection or uninterested in exploring their responsibilities in relational dynamics.
Laura, United States
"I found Martine’s coaching to be absolutely life-changing. I learned to set boundaries with ease, embrace self-care, and trust myself more deeply. As a result of her coaching, I have increased confidence, greater stability, and tools that enable me to navigate life’s challenges with more grace and peace."
Anna, Latvia
"Johannes coached me through every stage of my separation from my ex-husband, empowering me to navigate an incredibly challenging stage of my life. Post-separation, Martine worked with me through the conscious uncoupling methodology, guiding me in finding closure, heal, and move forward. They profoundly reshaped my journey."
Dimitrios, Switzerland
"Johannes has an incredible talent for creating a trusting and uplifting space, where growth feels both achievable and inspiring. His honesty and insightful approach challenged me to see things from new perspectives and enabled me to make transformative changes in my life.”
The FAQs
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Who is welcome at this retreat?All adults are welcome—no matter their gender (identity), sexual orientation or preferences, cultural background, race or ethnicity, spiritual beliefs or practices, relationship status, or other identities defining who they are. We will do whatever we can to ensure an inclusive environment that caters to anyone who is seeking a space to grow and transform in ways that are respectful to themselves, and to those around them.
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When and where is the next retreat?Our next retreat is scheduled for June 30 to July 7, 2025 in Xaló (Alicante), Spain.
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Is there an age limit?No. We welcome adults of all ages. Inner work is a life-long journey and a diversity of ages only enriches the perspectives and experiences of our participants.
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Can I attend if I’m currently in a relationship?Yes. Whether your breakup was recent or long past, whether you’re unsure if it’s time to separate, or whether you’re reflecting on a marriage of decades or a partnership of months, you are welcome at this retreat. Nevertheless, please note that this retreat is designed for individual participation only. While we understand that relational journeys can take many forms, we aren’t able to welcome couples in an effort to maintain the intended dynamic and ensure everyone can focus on their own growth. We appreciate your understanding.
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Can I attend if I’m already seeing a therapist?Absolutely. This retreat can complement ongoing therapy by providing a focused, immersive experience. It is not offered as a substitute for psychotherapy or other forms of therapy. It is not designed, and is not intended, for that purpose. Participants may find it builds on the insights and growth they’ve achieved with their therapist. We encourage you to discuss your participation with your therapist before attending. If you are currently taking psychiatric medication, we ask you to first consult with your treating professional before reserving your place.
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What kind of results can I expect?Your process and its outcomes depend on where you are currently at, your openness, and your own commitment. Our programming focuses on supporting you in feeling more grounded, resilient, and empowered, and on sharing practical tools to support your personal growth long after the retreat ends. We don't make promises about results, because it would not make sense.
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Is there support available after the retreat?Yes. After the retreat, you’ll have access to the retreat community, where you can stay connected with other participants. Participants may also choose to continue with follow-up one-on-one coaching or join group integration sessions to maintain momentum and support ongoing growth.
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Are children allowed at the retreat?We understand arranging childcare can be challenging, but to maintain a focused, adult-only environment that supports self-reflection, we’re unable to accommodate children of any ages.
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Can I bring my animal friends?In order to ensure everyone’s comfort and well-being, we’re unable to welcome pets at the retreat. If you’ll be bringing a service animal as defined by applicable law, please contact us in advance so we can discuss this with the retreat center and make the necessary arrangements.
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When and where is the next retreat?Our next retreat is scheduled for June 30-July 7, 2025 in Xaló (Alicante), Spain.
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What is the reservation process?Once you book your spot, you’ll receive a confirmation email with a link to complete a short intake form and schedule a brief call with us. The form and call help ensure the retreat is the right fit for you and allow us to gather any important information to make your experience as smooth and enjoyable as possible.
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What is the cancellation policy?All bookings are final and non-refundable, so please ensure you’re ready and available before reserving your spot. We suggest that you have insurance that covers you in case you need to cancel for health or other emergency reasons. If you have any questions or concerns, feel free to reach out to us beforehand—we’re happy to help. In the unlikely event that the retreat is cancelled by us or the retreat center, you will receive a full refund. However, if the retreat must be cancelled due to force majeure events (including but not limited to extreme weather, natural disasters, or other circumstances beyond our control), we cannot guarantee full refunds but will make every effort to provide a fair resolution.
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How many people will take part in the retreat?The exact number of participants varies depending on everyone's room preferences. We expect eight to twelve participants and limit the retreat to a maximum of 15 participants to ensure an intimate and constructive group dynamic where everyone receives personal attention and can progress at their own pace.
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How do I get to the retreat location?Generally, you are responsible for your own transportation, but we’re here to make the process a smooth as possible for you. The retreat center is about one hour from Alicante Airport and around ninety minutes from Valencia Airport. Transfers can be arranged by us for an additional fee. If you prefer to arrive by car, there is parking available free of charge at the retreat center. Once you’re registered, we’ll share detailed travel information and guidance to help ensure a smooth journey.
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Do I need to have insurance?Yes, we ask you to have insurance. Participants are responsible for arranging their own insurance to cover personal property, health, and any unforeseen incidents during the retreat. By attending, participants assume full responsibility for any injury, illness, or loss they may experience, as well as for any damage—whether intentional or accidental—they cause to materials, property, or venues associated with the retreat.
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Do you offer financial assistance or payment plans?We do not currently offer payment plans. However, we may be able to provide limited financial assistance on a case-by-case basis to individuals from underrepresented communities for whom cost is a barrier. While we cannot guarantee support, we encourage you to contact us to discuss your options and explore what might be possible.
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Can I send someone else to the retreat as a gift?Yes. Gifting this type of retreat experience can be a meaningful gesture. However, the gift recipient must personally complete the application process to ensure they are interested in this journey and committed to showing up. Even when the gift comes with the best intentions, we consider it our responsability to ensure that this experience feels right to them.
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If I book a shared double room, can I choose who to share with?Yes, if you’re attending with a friend, we will ensure you share a room together. If you’re coming on your own, we will carefully pair you with a roommate based on the information provided in your intake form. We take great care in making these matches and do not mix genders unless participants specifically request it.
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Is the retreat wheelchair accessible?We strive to make the retreat as accessible as possible. Unfortunately, the venue is not fully wheelchair accessible due to the gravel terrain surrounding the property. While they can accommodate guests who use a wheelchair but can walk short distances, it may not be suitable for those who rely entirely on a wheelchair for mobility. If you have specific accessibility concerns, feel free to reach out to discuss possible accommodations.
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Are service animals permitted?Registered service animals may be allowed. Please contact us ahead of time so we can properly accommodate both you and your service animal’s needs.
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Can you accommodate dietary needs?Yes, we ask about dietary preferences and needs in our intake form to ensure we can accommodate you as best as possible. Most of the meals served will be vegetarian or vegan, supporting a nourishing and balanced experience. If you have additional dietary requirements, we will discuss them with the retreat center to explore how we can best meet your needs.
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Is there a laundry service available at the property?Yes, there is a laundry service of washing & drying, charged per load, in case you need it.
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What is the code of conduct?Creating a respectful and inclusive environment is our top priority. Participants are expected to treat others, the venue, and material with kindness, respect, and care.
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Is full attendance required?Yes, full attendance is required as each session builds on the previous one, creating a cohesive, supportive experience and transformational journey. That said, we value and honour anyone's personal boundaries and needs—while we encourage full participation to get the most from the programme, no one will ever be pressured to engage in anything they’re not comfortable with.
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What is your drug policy?The use or possession of illegal drugs is strictly prohibited, and participants are required to comply with the laws of Spain. Additionally, we do not serve alcohol during the retreat, as this is a space for clarity, reflection, and deep inner work. Creating an alcohol-free environment supports emotional presence, mindful connection, and the transformative process we aim to foster.
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How is my privacy protected during the retreat?Your privacy is important. All participants sign a confidentiality agreement, and no recordings are allowed. We establish clear guidelines on the first day, ensuring a brave and respectful space where personal stories remain within the group.
Are you particularly interested in the Conscious Uncoupling approach?
Martine is hosting a seven-week virtual book study from February to April 2025.
If this speaks to you, learn more here.
